ADHD stigma is considered one of several risk factors for negative outcomes of ADHD, including developing other mental health disorders such as anxiety, depression, alcohol/substance abuse, and eating disorders. Stigma of any kind is often connected to increasing the risk of suicide. A shocking fact about people with ADHD is that they are 3 times more likely than the general population to commit suicide.

Even though ADHD can look different for each individual, there is a process for exploring a possible diagnosis. When we assess for ADHD, we are looking for what falls beyond the typical childhood behavior category and how their life is impacted by those behaviors and needs. If you’re noticing your child’s behaviors seem more intense, more frequent, or last longer than what is a developmentally appropriate behavior, that is a pattern to note. We also want to reflect on how their functioning is being impacted by their behavior. Let’s look at the 2 most common settings, home and school, and see what we notice…

Making sense of the passing of time can be hard, and sometimes we try to help ourselves understand this by setting goals. Therapist’s love goals! We set goals with our clients all the time. Goals themselves are not a problem, as long as you are kind to yourself and give yourself the grace to have harder days.

Here are some ways to think about the new year and set goals in a more positive way.

Positive psychology, promoted by psychologist and researcher Martin Seligman, encourages individuals to adopt—you guessed it—a positive outlook on life. But not in the way that Instagram influencers often encourage toxic positivity. Benefits of positive psychology include increased self-esteem, improved relationships, and a better outlook on life. To me, those all sound like things we are very much in need of as we see to the start of 2021. This isn’t to ignore all the seemingly insurmountable negatives from the past year, however focusing only on those discounts the little moments that help us get through those huge, life-altering events that are usually out of our control. What we can do is tap back into personal strengths, gratitude, wellbeing, and feelings of hope, compassion, and optimism that motivate us to get through the day. 

Everyone feels sad sometimes. Sadness is a normal, healthy human emotion. We feel sad when we lose someone, when someone we love is going through a hard time, or when we are disappointed. We feel sadness when less significant things happen too- our favorite restaurant is closed, or it rains on a day we plan to be outside. Depression is not the same. It is a diagnostic term that means someone is feeling a combination of different symptoms that get in the way of normal, everyday functioning. Depression is sometimes used in place of sadness, but, in a clinical setting, these words are completely different. Sadness can be an aspect of depression, but both can exist on their own. 

But how can “bad” emotions be helpful?

Often, though not always, what we mean is that humor makes us feel better. Humor is an important tool in relationships of all kinds, and humor comes up often during therapy. For example, “Opposite Action” is a coping skill commonly taught in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. Opposite Action is doing the opposite of what you feel to counteract the feeling or urge. In the case of humor, it could mean making a joke or attempting to laugh when you are feeling sad. Laughter can also bring people together, in the case of a shared sense of humor, or an inside joke, or can help us process an embarrassing event or moment. 

Sometimes, a child’s sadness may be more than the typical emotional response we might expect. If your child is experiencing sadness over a long period of time, overall low mood, or it seems like their sadness is becoming a part of their personality, your child may be experiencing depression. Depression affects a child’s mood, thinking, and behavior. It can show up in all areas of life, including at home, school, with friends, and extra-curriculars.

Radical acceptance, developed by Marsha Linehan as a part of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, or DBT, is the act of accepting experiences as they are, and not trying to force change. This can mean accepting the fact that you are feeling depressed, accepting that you are feeling let down by a friend, or, even accepting that you might not get enough sleep. The idea behind radical acceptance is if we accept that we have pain, we limit suffering. When we radically accept our own emotions or experiences, we feel more in control.

Spend time on any playground or park and you will hear adults (or even yourself) calling out to kids to “be careful”.  We have the best of intentions and just want to keep our kids safe.  We do not want our kids to get hurt.  The internet is at our fingertips, telling us all of the terrible things that can happen to kids.  We want them to be mindful of their surroundings.  However, as great as our intentions are, telling our kids to “be careful” can actually be harmful to them. Here are four reasons why we should stop telling out kids to “be careful” and what to say to them instead.  

Anxiety is the experience of excessive worry or nervousness related to life experiences. Many people experience anxiety in some form at some point in their lives. However, some people struggle with anxiety on a much greater scale and with greater frequency. People who have intense or frequent anxiety often feel misunderstood and belittled by those around them, and have a hard time describing what they might be feeling in order to ask for help. What is unhelpful to say to someone with anxiety? What might you say instead?